5:30am is earlier that I thought it would feel. I went to bed at 10pm so I could get up for the breakfast television. I settled on a blue shirt and a sweater that I’m hoping is more textured than patterned. I’m going to play Love Is A Hunter on Global TV in Montreal sometime between 7 and 8am. Wish my vocal cords luck!
Banned clothes for being on TV are my whole wardrobe!
I’m going on breakfast television in Montreal tomorrow and below is the advice on what I should wear. All I own are silky fabrics, patterns and teal. All of my props are green! What am I going to do?!!
"Bright, solid colours work best. We kindly ask you to come camera-ready as unfortunately, makeup is not provided. Please don’t wear stripes, checks or small intricate designs. Please do not wear all white, black satin or silky fabrics and most importantly:
PLEASE DON’T WEAR GREEN, TEAL OR YELLOW.
If you bring props, please note that green is a colour that unfortunately doesn’t work.”
Congrats to all nominees and winners of the 2013 MOTHA Art Awards! I won in the musician category with along with Big Freedia (http://www.bigfreedia.com/) and KOKUMO (http://kokumomedia.com/kokumo-music-2/) It was a huge surprise and great company to share the musician award with. There are so many amazing trans artists who deserve tons of recognition. Thanks to MOTHA for creating these awards to do just that.
For the last eight years I have defined myself, in part, as front woman for the band Ohbijou. After some commercial and critical success, extensive touring and hundreds of live shows, our band has decided to go on “hiatus”. Though humbled, warmed and inspired by those who listen to the music we…
The Realm Outside of “He” and “She” - Response to being on the cover of the Toronto Star
The process of being interviewed by a journalist is a very vulnerable one. As a subject I answer questions, and then the journalist selects certain quotes to use when it comes to the topic they are investigating. Recently I was in an article in the Toronto Star about gender non-conforming people:
There were some parts of this article that I didn’t feel were fully explained for whatever reason. I’m writing this because I have more agency when I get to choose my own words when it comes to both my identity and my perspective on the recent history of the ‘they’ pronoun being used in popular media.
The journalist from the Toronto Star contacted me and quoted some excerpts to me that I had written. They were from a tumblr post I made in January 2012 coming out as preferring the pronoun ‘they’ and about the reason why I was boycotting being interviewed by Toronto’s Gay and Lesbian paper Xtra at the time:
In the article in the Star, Xtra’s managing editor Danny Glenwright (who was also responsible for posting Lexi Sanfino’s legal name on his Facebook page, and who has not publically apologized for doing so) is quoted as saying that the situation was caused by a misunderstanding about Xtra’s use of the pronoun ‘they.’ It has been well documented that Toronto artist Elisha Lim (http://www.facebook.com/pages/Elisha-Lim/104527506295114?fref=ts) requested that the ‘they’ pronoun be used for an article about them, but this request was denied by the journalists and editors at Xtra. For me, the fact that Elisha was denied the use of their preferred pronoun was and is enough evidence that someone was denied pronoun usage by the paper. Elisha Lim was the first person that I knew of going by the ‘they’ pronoun in the media, and seeing them stand up for themselves inspired me to do the same.
I think there are as many different kinds of ways of being trans as there are trans people. Every trans person (every person, actually) has a different way that they need to be treated to feel respected, so it would be impossible for an article to completely educate anyone on everyone’s gender preferences. In the future I hope that the mainstream media will move to cover more diverse stories about trans people and move away from favouring those who are white and on the trans-masculine spectrum. I also hope that writers, editors and copy editors take more care in using the preferred pronouns of subjects.
After many clear requests for no contact, my biological father has been making efforts to contact me and my siblings. He has mental health issues and has a history of abusive behaviour. We have had restraining orders against him in the past. We are in the process of taking legal action again, but we are also asking for wider community support.
We are asking that no one give him any information about us and to notify us if he shows up anywhere. His name is Gregory A Wilson. He is about 5’10, balding, 250lbs and 54 years old. He is often visibly struggling with mental health issues.
He has repeatedly attempted to come into my shows despite having been escorted out in the past. Since my book came out he has been emailing me regularly. I have replied only to request that he cease to contact me. Last week he went to my brother Dan’s place of employment, at the Calgary Public Library, to try to make contact. During the incident, Gregory threatened to destroy my book (as documented in a formal incident report there).
His efforts to see us have been escalating and left me feeling very unsafe. Being a touring performer makes it pretty easy to track me down. As you can imagine, this has caused a lot of stress in regards to upcoming performances.
Most immediately, it would be great if some people could attend my upcoming public appearances in Calgary on February 12th, including a speaking engagement at Mount Royal University and an evening show at the Hub. It would be helpful to have some extra eyes and bodies around should he attempt to contact us in during one of these occasions.
Please contact me at email@example.com if you are available to come to either of those performances.